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The noble man is a scientific observer of human interactions. When someone rubs you the wrong way, it is important to remain as unemotional as possible and switch to observer mode. When in this mode even your gaze can overcome potential conflict. Your gaze communicates the feeling that you are unmoved by their behavior and are curious as to why they are behaving this way.

In your never ending quest for social mastery, you must begin to love your role as someone who is truly interested in humanity, even segments which you don’t like. The noble man is not free from dislike or even hate of those who are evil, but it doesn’t affect him like others. The normal man will get a physical reaction, stress, and disrupted thinking from those he hates. The noble man greets the emotion of dislike or hate from another direction. He looks at it as a scientific observer and decides whether or not it is worth his energy or should he move on to productive activity and interactions. When he makes that decision he will leave the emotion and its accompanying bad side effects behind.

The nobleman has a sensitive moral compass but he does not let evil or dislike affect him in such a way to derail him from his lofty goals. The worst side effect of dislike and hate (besides the physical reactions and stress) is to take precious time away from moving toward one of your many goals.

All of this is of course very difficult. In your quiet moments of reflection or prayer or meditation, try to spend some time, distancing yourself from being invested in dislike and hate, see it being bounced off of you. You don’t have to love those you hate or annoy you, that is unrealistic. The nobleman constantly strives to honestly acknowledge that emotion, takes a look at it as a scientific observer especially in the midst of an interaction, remain detached as much as possible, and move on to better things.

Freely adapted and interpreted based on material from Positive Imaging by Norman Vincent Peale

The noble man sees everyday and every interaction as a chance to bring light. He realizes that one must always be “on” so to speak. This of course can be very hard and we all have our low days. I use an erasable magic marker and on occasion write inspirational things on my mirror in the mornings that I am having trouble getting my mood and strength up. You must have in your armory things you can do to break that feeling. I recommend that you have some book that you have always found inspirational with you or at least readily available if necessary.

A noble man must always be free of acting in a way that hides an ulterior motive. Only one agenda is needed and that is to bring as much light to any interaction and then when the light is shining, you have the control to decide how you want it to proceed and in what manner. The best way to accomplish this is “to be interested and not to try to be interesting.” Even in situations where you encounter people not interested in connecting with you, you must maintain your strength in knowing you walk in integrity and purpose. What others think of you in this situation is none of your business, stay out of their heads and stay in your space of calm, collected, confident energy ready to bring light.

Something wonderful happens when one is self-confident. It inspires others around them to relax and be open to communication. As a physician I have often noticed how people around me tend to relax when it is obvious that I am confident in my abilities.

When one is in a social situation the same thing happens. When you project warmth and confidence, people around you will feel more comfortable. The noble man who has developed a sense of self-confidence uses it with his social intelligence to create an environment of friendly relaxed communication and fun. When you develop your confidence, you need to use it to be an ambassador of good will wherever you go.

Too many people in situations from elevators to shopping malls to work settings to bars to parties are simply afraid and too self-concious to initiate conversations. As a noble man, you are an ambassador for changing the vibe to a more positive one. For some noble men, it involves elevating the energy, for others it involves a more peaceful one. The point I am trying to make is that the noble man through his confidence has a great deal of control of his environment and is always looking to bring out what is special in the person he is interacting with.

Today, make it a point to speak to 3 people. Either plan to bring a smile to their face or find out something special about someone you interact with on a regular basis. Be the man because you ARE the man!!

The purpose of this website is to create / resurrect / expand the concept of noble masculinity. What is a noble man? Why is he needed in our society? Why has the pop psychology movement done little for men? How can the human potential movement be used for clarifying masculinity? What is the impact on feminism on the notion of masculinity? How does one become a noble man? What will be the result of a new wave of men who embrace a energized form of masculinity characterized by strength, discipline, creativity, faith, optimism, social intelligence and leadership?

The above questions are ones that I hope to explore with your help. Our society has unfortunately embraced the notion that the violence of today and the past is somehow related to masculinity. This is perpetuated by pop psychology, the media, and extreme feminism. The fact is that our society is in desperate need for leadership that personifies noble masculinity.

True noble masculinity or the concept of the noble man or nobleman is one that embraces the masculine. He is a man who does not need the validation of the feminine but understands that the feminine is naturally enthralled by a man who is living for a higher purpose and goal. The noble man is one that understands and is brought to new heights of living by the dance between the two poles of masculine and feminine.

Possessing unequaled social intelligence, he studies human behavior because he knows that everyday and every interaction is a chance to expand and learn about people and to leave every person and every interaction at a higher level. His confidence and social acumen allows him to find what is special in every person and to relate to them and reward them.

The noble man approaches the feeling of fear as a sure sign that he must overcome it, not through reckless abandon but through concerted, concentrated effort knowing that beyond fear is another level of achievement and enlightenment.

He is in control of his sexuality because he understands that women of quality, respect and instinctively understand that a man in control of his sexuality is a man of almost unequaled power and attraction. This does not mean restricted sexuality, it means an awareness and ability to harness this power both for physical sexuality of unparalled passion but also for its use in creative expression.

In summary this website will explore and provide a place for men who sense that the power in being a man is not one to be ashamed of as society portrays it, but one of noble power, immense responsibility, and one that shows the way to true happiness and achievement.